An Escort Client’s Perspective

Outcall vs Incall | A Hobbyist's View

There is always conversation about which type of escort service is the best in terms of out-call or in-call escorts. In all fairness, they both have their pros and cons. We reached out to a few hobbyists/punters to get a better insight to this continuous debate, one was willing to give his thoughts.

“I’ve been a hobbyist for about 12 years now. I have done a lot of travel both here in the United States and abroad. I’ve had my share of massage parlors, sensual rub downs, independent escorts and escort agencies. For the most part, I would be considered one who was strictly a incall service type of guy…until recently.

I guess I always figured that incall services would turn out being more discreet and suited to my needs, and for several years that was the case. I just wanted to have my fun, without having this women at my house or hotel, where neighbors or people might wonder about these different women visiting at strange hours of the day or night. And I didn’t want to be seen with her in public, especially in the state I resided in. I figured it was a win-win, I was at the time comfortable with meeting her at her chosen place, work place or private residency, and she could take comfort in being safe in her own environment.

So for my majority of my 12 years as a hobbyist, I could count on one hand how many times I partook in a outcall service…and I would still have some fingers to spare on that hand. Yes, all was good until my company had a five day business conference overseas in which I spotted a co-worker at a parlor brothel {chuckles a little}I wouldn’t expect to see ANY of my co-workers. I had researched and found this parlor about a month before, and made a reservation. Mind you, this was a popular city, and on the internet alone there were dozen’s of choices. I mean really, what where the odds of me seeing a co-worker at the same location on the same day. The good part was he didn’t see me, the bad part was I saw him which changed my whole outlook on adult incall services.

So I tried the hotel thing, I felt more comfortable there than I did at my house at the time. The hotel thing turned out not to be so bad. I mean, sure I had to endure an extra cost {hotel fee}, but didn’t have to worry about running into a co-worker or somebody else. I knew that she could come straight to my room without any known association with myself. For the most part the girls were very discreet in their demeanor and appearance.

Once I became more comfortable with certain escorts and agencies, I began having visits to my house. This turned out to be a good move and allowed me to have more time with certain women because I didn’t have to worry about the hotel fee as much anymore. The girl’s felt safe because of our familiarity and I felt at ease being in my house.

I still hit the occasional parlor from time to time for a nice massage, but for the maximum relaxation and good time I prefer outcall ladies now. They bring more to the table in my opinion in terms of personality, entertainment talents, conversation and so on and so forth. To each, their own.”

As Always. Be. Happy.

"Flirting can come in different types of forms…"

Most female escorts, or even most women have the ability to grab the attention of a man simply by flirting. Some escorts, women, are much more bolder when flirting while others come across a little milder. Both can accomplish a goal, whatever that may be.

Shy Escort Women
Some female escorts have a passive-aggressive personality, yet her smile and eye contact, whether the man or the escort herself know it, is a form of flirting. This type of escort flirting is not aggressively in your face but yet can get the message across just as well. Even shy escorts can use this type of flirting to success.

Confident Escort Women
The confident escort shares some of the traits as the shy escort, but when she does her flirting, she is in total control of the situation. Her eye contact speaks without words, yet her words carry the conversation in whatever direction she chooses. Even though her flirtation is bolder, she understands how to also tame the situations by simply being suttle.

Flirting can come in different types of forms. Whether it’s a shy or confident escort, they both will share some similar traits. One would be a inviting smile, nothing better than a beautiful women and a smile, in fact the two go together. Another would be eye contact which will generate interest. Shy or confident, both will send the same message, just in a different approach. As always. Be. Happy.

"Keep the distractions to a minimum or none at all…"

So you want to date an escort, be sure to remember the basics when that time comes.

If you are paying by cash, please put it in an envelope in view where you escort can see it when she arrives. It always help to be so fresh and so clean, like we always say wash your ass and be presentable, what woman likes a funky man…Whether it’s an out or in-call, be on time. Treat your female escort as a lady…period.

Keep the distractions to a minimum or none at all, she is by the way the only the distraction you need, which is why you requested her in the first place. Now, having the television or music on is OK…if it fits the mood of the encounter.

Make it known what you are expecting when your female escort arrives. She is there to entertain you and having a better understanding of how to carry out that so you are satisfied is something she would need to know.

It’s always a smart move to treat your escort nicely, especially when she is living up to your own personal standards. Your escort will always remember those who treat and tip her well, those that do usually get repeat performances.

As always. Be. Happy.

…a lot of these women will be some of the smartest you’ll ever meet.

Whether you believe it or not, working as an escort is as real as a job as any other related or non related industry job. The effort that one puts in will determine not only success but safety. Fast money is not always good, especially when precaution is secondary to getting paid. That being said, this can be a very lucrative business for those that treat it as such. This type of job is not for everyone, you have to be mentally ready for all types of BS that can occur both with clients as well as handling the business side of things such as bookings, screening, website up keep, marketing and a number of other things that have to be done in order for one to have both success and safety.  Though there are many, below are 3 more misconceptions about being an escorts.

1. Escorts & Prostitutes Are One In The Same
False. There are plenty of escorts, believe it or not, that don’t divulge in sexual activities. You’re paying for nothing other than their personal time, their attention to you and you only and some discreet, adult entertainment fun, period. Believe it or not, there are plenty of men who don’t want sex from escorts, rather just companionship and a good time, whether it be for one or several hours or even several dates.

2. Escorts Are Not Too Smart
False. If dating escorts is your thing, you’ll come to know that a lot of these women will be some of the smartest you’ll ever meet. A lot of them are college educated and have attained degrees in a variety of majors. Being sexy is one thing, being smart and sexy is another, men know that and love it. Plus, a smart women in this business can and will make very good money, and that’s a fact.

3. Escorting Will Lead To Drug Abuse
False. The person or people who say this are probably the same people who say marijuana is a gateway drug…bullshit! You may run into clients who partake in a little or heavy drug or alcohol use, but that’s why you screen, and if you ever feel uncomfortable that’s why you leave. Remember to always do you and don’t do anything that makes you uneasy, even if it is good money, it’s not worth it.

As always, Be. Happy.

"The happier she is the happier you will be…"

The following is some friendly advice when dealing with your female escort. Take heed so you both can have a pleasurable experience.

• Time is money. That being said, time is time, you don’t get it back…ever. Do your research and make sure you know what you want before making a booking.
• Don’t get too emotionally involved with your escort. Most escorts are very discreet people. Having several wonderful dates is fine, having a full on relationship is not…be cool with it.
• Stay reasonably sober. A moderate amount of drinks…ok. Sloppy drunk and rudeness is never acceptable.
• Leave the wife or girlfriend out of it, unless you are a 100% sure she is ok with it. Other than that shut up, break up or get a divorce, then do your thing.
• Always respect your escort’s limits. ALWAYS!

• Get to know your escort, especially if you feel you will be seeing her more often. Being your escort’s best client is always a plus ;-}
• Contrary to popular opinion or your own beliefs, a lot of escorts are highly educated and intelligent. And the depth of her being does go beyond that sexy naked body. Treating her as so and having an intelligent, stimulating conversation makes her feel more comfortable with you.
• Be yourself…unless you are an asshole and have been told so numerous times, then be the opposite of an asshole, at least until she leaves.
• Treat her like a lady, every women loves to be treated as such. Don’t get put on the blacklist cause you want to be a dummy.
• The happier she is the happier you will be, tips/donations are always and much appreciated.
• *Bonus* {and probably most important} Hygiene. Wash your ass. Brush your teeth. Be presentable.

Just a few rules to abide by when dealing with your escort. Some are more important than others, all should be followed if you are looking for the best experience with your escort. Be. Happy.

"Female escorts want and need to feel comfortable, those that are…"

Female escorts that have or are starting to have a prosperous endeavor as an escort, tend to have several regular visits from certain clients.

Being an unselfish client is one way to get on your escort’s good side. What women doesn’t love generosity…exactly. Be yourself, unless your an asshole, then act like your not while enjoying your time with her. Sharing some of your interest goes a long way in building a successful relationship with an escort, she may even want to join in on some of those interest if possible. Female escorts want and need to feel comfortable, those that are…

Being open to a certain degree, being generous, passionate and gun ho about spending time with an escort will make the overall experience beautiful for both sides. If you know how to treat a women and take heed of the above mentioned characteristics, being your escorts favorite client is a good possibility. Be. Happy.